These gentle questions can help children feel safe sharing their thoughts, feelings, andexperiences. Try them during one-on-one moments—like a walk, car ride, or bedtime—and listen with care.
1) “I’m curious to learn more about ___. What is it like for you?”
Why it helps: This open-ended question shows genuine interest and gives your child permission to share their perspective.
Try it with: School, a new friend, or something they’ve been drawing/talking about.
2) “How does that feel?”
Why it helps: Simple and powerful, this question invites children to name and explore their emotions.
Follow up with: “It makes sense that you feel” “Any other feelings?” “Is there anything you need right now?” or “Thanks for telling me.”
3) “What do you think about ___?”
Why it helps: Encourages reflection and shows you value their thoughts and opinions.
Try it with: Changes at home, a movie you watched together, social media, or a tricky situation at school.
4) “What would you like to share about ___?”
Why it helps: Shows openness, curiosity, and that you value their experience.
Follow up with: Attentive silence, reflect what you hear, or try “Tell me more.”, “I wonder if that made you feel___”, “I think about that too, sometimes.”
5) “What’s the best part of ___ and the hardest part of ___?”
Why it helps: Balances the positive and the challenging, showing it’s okay to hold both at once. Helps kids sort out mixed feelings and express preferences.
Try it with: School, having two homes, playing sports, or trying something new.